This weekend I happened to find (on www.pbskids.org if you can believe it) this handy journal page for kids about dealing with anger:
- The things that make me angriest are:
- When I get angry, it feels like:
- I remember losing my temper when:
- After I lost my temper, it made me feel:
- When I need to get rid of my angry feelings I usually:
- This works or doesn't work (circle one) because:
- These are some negative or destructive ways to deal with anger:
- These are some positive or contructive ways to deal with anger:
I worked through the journal with my girl and was actually quite proud of her self-knowledge. I was particularly impressed when she said that after she loses her temper, she feels SAD (me too)! She thought that some positive ways to deal with anger were to hug the cat, kiss mommy, play with her brother (sometimes yes but probably not when he's the source of her frustration) and to sit on mommy's lap. You go girl!
The boy only managed thus far to answer the first question. The things that currently make him angry are NO DESSERT, and TIME OUTS! So true.
As part of our bedtime talk, we discussed more about anger and how we all get angry. We talked about good ways to try to diffuse our anger and we agreed together to work on it.
So on this week of Thanksgiving, I'm thankful that each day is a new chance to become a better parent. And what are you thankful for?