Frankly it is difficult at best to tell where gender roles begin, but I believe more of it has to do with what we "put on" our children through our societal messages and norms than with what happens or comes naturally to them from inside the womb.
And while we are talking pink, I'd like to make a point of clarification on my views:
- I had a pink and white gingham girlie bedspread that went with my pink room and all my pink stuff as a young girlie...
- I have a daughter who is about to turn four years old and while she has plenty of toys and clothes which are blue, gray, green, purple and other assorted colors -- trust me -- she has her share of PINK too (and loves it).
- I never said I wouldn't allow my girlie to have her pink phase or enjoy the color, what I did say (and still say for the most part) is that there is no need to gussy up a girl baby in pink given they are mostly just baby blobs who really don't have a perception of the color they are wearing or their gender and there is no need to push them down that path too soon. So... I did avoid pink with my girlie when she was little and still do when given the chance, but when she chooses it - I let her.
In terms of those three little girls who are coming my way and who I am feverishly knitting for... Think pink? Think again! :-)